Sisters For Sunshine

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Questions to ask and reflect for relationships

on March 14, 2013

Recently, my boyfriend and I have been answering questions about our relationship and happiness. It’s a great way to clear things up, get to really know the person inside and out, to reflect and open up, and be in agreement and in harmony. Below are relationship questions that are good for any relationship. I think reflection and communication with the other person is a healthy task!

Love/Trust: What is the best way for me to show that I love you? Is trust automatic until something occurs that takes it away, or does it evolve over time?

Activities/Interests: How much time and space do we need apart from each other? What activities and interests can we develop that will bring us closer? How will you support my hobbies? How would you rank all the priorities in your life: work, school, family, spouse, friends, hobbies, and church? Does your ranking reflect the amount of time you spend on each? Do you prefer a set daily work schedule or flexible work activities and timetables?

Conflict: How are we different? Could this be a source of future conflict? Do our differences complement each other? How did your family resolve conflicts when you were growing up? Do you approve or disapprove of that method? What will you change or not change to resolve conflicts in your future family? When you are in a bad mood, how should I deal with it?

Communication: Whenever we have difficult feelings about each other, should we (1) remain silent, (2) say something as soon as the difficult feelings arise, (3) wait a certain amount of time before raising the issue, or (4) do something else? If so, what? If you always say you are going to do something but never do it, what is the most effective way to bring this problem to your attention? What is the best way for me to communicate difficult feelings about you so that you are not offended?

Dreams/Desires: What are your deepest dreams and desires for yourself and for us? What drains you of your joy and passion? What replenishes your mind, body, and spirit? What makes you feel the most alive? What achievements would you like to accomplish?

Family: What influence, if any, do you believe my family should have on our relationship? What does my family do that annoys you? What does my family do that is a good model for us? What did you admire about the way your mother and father treated each other?

There are many questions to ask yourself and your partner in order to grow in your love and strengthen your relationship.


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