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Recycled Post: Advice Regarding Self-Confidence

on February 4, 2016

This post comes from July 2014, and I thought I’d share it again because my husband is having some difficulty with feeling confident in his new role at work. In addition to this advice, know that God is there for you cheering you on and pushing you to go beyond your comfort and to grow in confidence and ability.

It takes effort and focus to build up personal courage and confidence. But it’s necessary!

Having self-confidence “is an attitude which allows individuals to have positive yet realistic views of themselves and their situations. Self-confident people trust their own abilities, have a general sense of control in their lives, and believe that, within reason, they will be able to do what they wish, plan, and expect. Having self-confidence does not mean that individuals will be able to do everything. Self-confident people have expectations that are realistic. Even when some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be positive and to accept themselves. ” (Counceling Center at Univ. of Illinois Urbana-Champaign)

I found a resourceful article on self-confidence. Below are some tips for developing confidence.

  • Emphasize Strengths. Give yourself credit for everything you try. By focusing on what you can do, you applaud yourself for efforts rather than emphasizing end products. Starting from a base of what you should do helps you live within the bounds of your inevitable limitations.
  • Take Risks. Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn rather than occasions to win or lose. Doing so opens you up to new possibilities and can increase your sense of self-acceptance. Not doing so turns every possibility into an opportunity for failure, and inhibits personal growth.
  • Use Self-Talk. Use self-talk as an opportunity to counter harmful assumptions. Then, tell yourself to “stop” and substitute more reasonable assumptions. For example, when you catch yourself expecting perfection, remind yourself that you can’t do everything perfectly, that it’s only possible to try to do things and to try to do them well. This allows you to accept yourself while still striving to improve.
  • Self-Evaluate. Learn to evaluate yourself independently. Doing so allows you to avoid the constant sense of turmoil that comes from relying exclusively on the opinions of others. Focusing internally on how you feel about your own behavior, work, etc. will give you a stronger sense of self and will prevent you from giving your personal power away to others.

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